In yesterday’s post, I mentioned a few of Bill’s duties that I help him achieve through Christ. I wanted to quickly mention something I have been asked about (and wondered myself). Notice that I talked about how I work to fulfill Bill’s biblical goals. What if my husband’s goals are to come home, kick back in his recliner, pop open a beer, and watch sports all day while I serve him like crazy? That probably would not be a biblical goal for your husband to do regularly (though I would argue that there is a biblical place for intentional rest, and if that is how your husband rests he probably is not sinning); however, and I tread here lightly, you should still focus on serving him in this behavior. First, you are called to be his helpmate, and if this is how he wants you to help him, then choose obedience to God. God will be pleased. Second, focusing on your husband’s failures only opens the door for you to stop focusing on your own failures and to grow in self-righteousness (1 John 1:8-9). 1 Peter 3:1-2 says,
In the same way, you wives, be submissive to your own husbands so that even if any of them are disobedient to the word, they may be won without a word by the behavior of their wives, as they observe your chaste and respectful behavior.
Your command is to submit to your husband, so even if he is not following God’s word perfectly (and no one does–Romans 3:23), God will use your behavior toward your husband to sanctify him.
Edit: As it turns out, my favorite bloggers and I have a similar series going at the same time. That’s what I get for not looking around first to make sure I wasn’t being redundant. Check out their blog, too, as the Spirit has gifted them with far more wisdom than I. The series begins here, but they are still posting.